For many years there were 2 Catholic churches in town. On Balboa Island there was quaint St. John
Vianney and on the Balboa peninsula was Our Lady of Mount Carmel, steps from
the ocean, where our family was baptized.
As the city spread into the hills overlooking the harbor, land that had
been grazed by cattle was now covered with master planned housing. More people mean’s more schools and
churches—Our Lady Queen of Angels was born.
At this time, the early sixties, local residents were asked for
donations and contributions to get things off the ground, one of those being my
Dad. He owned and operated Irvine Coast
Country Club, a local golf course frequented by one Father Harvey from
OLQA. When I say frequented, I mean he
was a regular golfer on priests-day-off along with other priests from nearby
parishes. He was also a regular at the
19th hole following said rounds of golf.
When your parish priest stands before you in full priest garb and asks,
in an Irish accent, for help it is difficult to say no. My Dad couldn’t so he agreed to donate the
Stations of the Cross to the new church.
They were 14 hand carved, beautiful wood works of art depicting Christ’s
suffering and death. The Stations
remained in place on the walls of the Church from that time until last year
when they were taken down, refurbished, and now adorn the walls of the new OLQA
across the street.
I understand the need for growth, expansion, meeting earthquake
regulations and all the other reasons given for the change, but this one
bothered me. It’s just an outdated
church, right? No, that’s not
right. Three of our 4 kids were baptized
there. All of them had their first
communions there. Two of our kids were
married there. Funeral services for my
grandmother, aunt, mother and father were there. Also,
baptisms, first communions, weddings and funeral services for many, many good
friends and relatives were there.
Our 4 kids attended first through eighth grade at the adjacent school which
meant everything from plays, choir performances and graduations for each one of
them. The foundation for their lives was
formed there.
The ceiling inside the church had these beautiful dark wood beams. I have told my family many times that they reminded
me of the hull of a ship, namely the ARC.
They helped create a feeling of strength, protection and calm that made
a visit there a source of renewed spirit.
The cross, bearing Christ, was the most basic, simple, yet striking
cross that commanded the altar with its simplicity.
My Mothers favorite was Mary. The
right side of the altar was home for a small statue of Mary. Maybe it’s possible to move something and not
lose something but Mary in that place in that church was my mothers and my
go-to spot when the need was great.
One of my more memorable visits there was the Sunday following
9/11. Many of the United Airlines flight
crew that had departed from Boston that morning had been based in Corona del
Mar. The church was packed and there was
a large contingent of uniformed flight personnel there to honor their friends
and relatives. Moving speeches indelibly
stamped that day in my mind.
As I drive by and turn left into the new church parking lot now it is
sad for me to see the old church awaiting its fate. No it’s not just a church. It is a lifetime of profound memories for
me. At least the Stations of the Cross carry
on.
No one could have said it better! There is one part of OLQA that you left out---the friendship from the school days to today are a gift from GOD.
ReplyDelete(We went from the OLQA girls to the old bags of---OLQA!
It is a beautiful life with beautiful friends.
It took me awhile to reply to this one Dad. After I finished reading your post, I was a mess. The thought of the OLQA Church… OUR Church… being torn down makes me sick to my stomach. I can’t think about it without tearing up and getting a big lump in my throat… And when I think of turning left on that street and into the new parking lot and the old Church… well, I just can’t. I can’t even type it. Every time I try to I end up like I am right now… a sobbing emotional mess.
ReplyDeleteLike you said so perfectly, it is much more than just an old outdated church. That Church is where we grew up. It’s our emotional home-base… Mary’s statue on the right side of that beautiful altar with the blue tiles and the big draped pieces of fabric that would hang down on each side of the Cross… that was our place to go.
I understand the need for growth and expansion; I think it’s a good thing that more and more people are going to good ‘ol OLL CWAA. But why not just request a few new priests for the parish and add a few more Masses? I don’t understand. No matter what the reason is, more room, new regulations, whatever. It doesn’t have to be that way.
I can think of so many memories there! I won’t even begin to list them here. I just love that Church.
By the way… the spelling of OLL CWAA is perfect!
Woody, that's beautiful. We're facing almost the same thing here with Blessed Sacrament. The school was closed a few years ago, and the church will close within the next year. While Judy and Tom were baptized somewhere else and started grade school somewhere else, they finished at BSS--Bobby and I were baptized there, did grades 1-8, all the sacraments, Rip and I were married there, we had our oldest, Ryan, baptized there by the same priest that baptized me and married Rip & me...and the same priest that did the funerals for Mom, Dad, and our infant sister and brothers that died between Tom and me, and after Bobby. That church has a certain "aroma" ("smell" sounds bad...and I don't mean this in a bad way). Incense, blown-out candles, wooden pews and a waft of mixed scents from the attached school give BSS it's own, unique scent. Call me silly, but it was comfortable! We, too, had a special place in the church for Mary's altar. I helped Mom make a blue, full-length veil to add to Mary's statue during the month of May for May Crowning waaaaaayyy back in the 70s. It was even in place the day of Mom's funeral there in 1980. They're still using it. The last time I went to mass there was 2011...on what would have been Mom & Dad's 70th wedding anniversary. We were all there...saw some of the families that were there eons ago; parents of some of my friends. Oh gosh, I didn't intend to ramble on like this--but your sentiments were sure familiar...you could have been talking about Blessed Sacrament too! Love, Adrienne
ReplyDeleteAdrienne,
DeleteIt sounds like we feel the same way about similar situations, although in your case it sounds like BSS is closing permanently. In our case, OLQA (the church) is being replaced, so it will go on, just not in the church we love.
One thing I failed to mention in my blog, which "anonymous" (Terry) reminded me of in her comments, was the close and lasting bond developed between parents as our kids journeyed through those years. The mothers particularly have remained close and see each other often to this day.
You certainly have a long history with BSS. That makes for some well entrenched feelings. I can relate.
Thanks for taking the time to comment Adrienne. All the best.
Woody